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Debra Ann has been a champion of Collaborative Problem Solving in her home, work and community since 2005 years and is considered a thought leader and change-maker in her profession. Currently she is working to change the understanding of "behavioral goals" in an IEP, 504 or for any child who is being put out of class chronically, is a frequent-flyer to detention, suspended, or facing expulsion.
Our own child struggled immensely with staying regulated through the many demands of the day during his elementary school days. Everything, everyone was telling us to do to help him meet the demands being placed on him daily, was not working. This left us to spend countless hours researching on our own, evidence-based approaches that would work. We had to do something different! After stumbling on and reading "The Explosive Child" they finally hit the jackpot! Subsequently going to conferences with Dr. Ross Greene & Dr. Stuart Ablon in 2002, our family stopped struggling through concerning behavioral episodes and started skill building. Rethinking the usage of rewards, consequences and ignoring and conventional approaches to behavioral difficulites, we were able to realize our son did not need to be "motivated" to behave well, he was VERY motivated, he lacked the skill, not the will. We were able to help him build the skills he needed to address his low frustration tolerance, high IQ, impulsivity, cognitive inflexibility and executive function challenges.
Once we had this understanding at home, the concerning behaviors would only occur after a school day full of conventional approaches trying to "help" him "want" meet the demands being placed on him throughout the school day. We were frustrated with the lack of understanding within the school system to look at "behaviors" as a learning disability, instead of poor parenting, lack of motivation, and trying to get attention or out of something.
Kids, neither mine nor yours, should continue to be misunderstood by their behavioral challenges. Challenging and concerning behaviors are NOT a reflection of one’s parenting or teaching abilities. They are an example of lagging skills in 5 basic domains and it is time to write behavioral goals that are truly-trauma informed into IEP's and 504's to reflect an approach that teaches needed coping skills.
If you would like to know more about IEP behavioral goals
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I get it. My own child struggled immensely with staying regulated through the many demands of the day. The demands being placed on my child exceeded the ability to meet them. This left our family struggling through intense behavioral episodes that lasted for hours and were full of aggression towards me as well as destruction of our property. These episodes would often occur after a school day full of supporting students who also had high behavioral needs. I was tired and frustrated with trying to meet both my child and my students’ needs within the special education system.
Kids, neither mine nor yours, should be defined by their behavioral challenges. They are not a reflection of one’s parenting or teaching abilities. They are an example of your child communicating that the demands of the environment are exceeding their current abilities. And they are doing it in the only way they know how; however inefficient that may be.
Abbey has been a champion of Collaborative Problem Solving in her home, work and her community for years and is considered a thought leader and change-maker in her profession.
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“I couldn’t think of anyone better to walk aside us on this journey.”
Abbey’s “priority is to make sure each learner’s needs are met whether it is in the general education or special education classroom. Her motto is ‘if Plan A doesn’t work, there are 25 other letters of the alphabet to try.’ Abbey is not afraid to think ‘outside the box’ when it comes to make sure her student’s needs are met.”
Special Education Teacher
“Abbey is not just another IEP coach. She is also a passionate parent and educator that gets KIDS DO WELL IF THEY CAN. I have known Abbey and her family since 2018. If you are looking for help with navigating and/or having your voice heard in the IEP meetings with behaviors being truly understood, I highly recommend connecting with Abbey.”
Debra Ann Afarian
Founder, Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC)
Navigating the IEP process and the school system can be tough!
Schedule a 20 minutes call so you can share your top 3 concerns with Abbey. She'll share with you the next steps you can take for your child and we’ll see if we’re a perfect fit to build your child’s IEP together!