Your Journey with HBCC

  The HBCC Roadmap for Parenting, Teaching, & Supporting Behaviorally Challenging Children is learning Collaborative Problem Solving® 

 When your child struggles with challenging behaviors, developmental delays, or mental health concerns, finding the right approach can feel overwhelming.

You know something’s wrong—but you don’t know why or what to do about it.

You're stressed, angry, confused, embarrassed— even scared.

You turn to professionals, but their language is filled with unfamiliar terms.

You try the strategies they offer—reward charts, sticker systems, consequences, ignoring behaviors— but nothing seems to help. In fact, some of it makes things worse.

Even educators and therapists often fall back onto outdated methods that focus on "managing" or "extinguishing" behavior rather than understanding it.

Which is why Conventional Approaches Often Fail

Most traditional approaches are rooted in a Token Economy— a system of rewards, consequences, and planned ignoring.

This works for about 70% of children who already have the ability to be thoughtful, flexible, and intentional.

But for the other 30%— kids who struggle with emotional regulation, cognitive flexibility, and problem-solving—these systems don’t work.

No matter how consistent you are…

No matter how clearly you set expectations or follow through on consequences…

If your child lacks skills that are needed, then "managing" or "extinguishing" behavior alone won’t help.

It can actually do harm.

For these kids, consequences feel like major trauma, and missing out on rewards feels like rejection.

Parents describe reminding these children of consequences for non-compliance is like pouring gasoline on a fire— behaviorally challenging children say it is like pouring salt on a wound.

Behavior Is Communication, Not a Good or Bad Choice

Emotional dysregulation is now recognized as a stress response— not “bad behavior.”

Still, expectations need to be met, and families need peace.

But when your child is dysregulated, adults often become dysregulated.

It becomes a cycle of adult/child conflict, power struggles, and walking on eggshells.

You’re trying everything— and still feel like you’re failing.

You’ve probably heard advice like:

“Be consistent.”

“Follow through.”

“Use a sticker chart.”

“Just say no and mean it, stick to it.”

“Give them consequences when they misbehave.”

These are oversimplified answers to complex problems.

And when the behavior doesn’t improve, the blame often falls on the parent, and everyone says:

“You’re doing it wrong.”

The truth?

You’re being told to use the wrong tool

Not using the tool wrong

You wouldn’t use a shovel to fix a flat tire.

Why use behavior charts to teach emotional skills?

A Better Way Forward: The Neuroscience of Building Skills

Modern neuroscience shows us that children who struggle with behavior are often lacking the skills— not the will —to do well.

If they could do well, they would do well.

HBCC (Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child) was founded to bring parents an evidence-based, skill-building, truly trauma-informed inclusive approach.

You and your child deserve equity and understanding—not blame and shame.

At HBCC, our parent class takes you on a 6-week journey to understand:

What’s going on with your child

Why conventional methods don’t work

What does work— and why

We help you learn how to support your child’s:

Communication and expression of emotions

Executive functioning and self-regulation

Flexibility, problem solving, and social connection

Here's Some of What We Offer at HBCC

After working with thousands of families since 2007, our 6-week curriculum has been shaped by Think:Kids, HBCC and every parent who’s walked this path with us before you.

We know that many families have already taken parenting classes that didn’t help. That’s why taking an HBCC class is essential to learning a different approach— because you need it to be something other the same series of firmer consequences, more positive rewards and sticking to planned ignoring.

Let us help you stop chasing short-term fixes and start teaching long-term skills.

HBCC's 6-Week Parenting Course Covers:

Week 1: What’s getting in the way?
Why do some kids struggle to meet everyday expectations?

Week 2: The 5 Thinking Skills
What are they, and how does the Collaborative Problem Solving® approach help build them?

Week 3: Unsolved Problems
What unmet needs are behind the behavior? Do you know with confidence the problem you are trying to solve?

Week 4: Trauma-Informed Lens
How do we reduce challenging behaviors and build skills— while strengthening connection and the relationship?

Week 5: Practice Makes Progress
We apply everything we’ve learned using real-life scenarios.

Week 6: Review, Q&A and What’s Next

HBCC provides handouts, binders, a Certificate of Completion, and guidance on continuing the journey.

What is HBCC's Philosophy

Discipline without relationship leads to rebellion.

You cannot punish (or reward) a child into flexibility, regulation, or empathy.

That’s why we teach parents how to build connection, not compliance.

Our team of certified parent coaches and trainers are parents themselves— and many of us have been through exactly what you’re going through.

We’ll help you navigate the road ahead with clarity, compassion, and confidence.

HBCC isn’t just a parenting program - it’s a movement to stop misunderstanding our most vulnerable children — and start equipping them with what they really need.

You Are Not Alone

If you’ve read this far, this message is likely for you.

You may be exhausted. Skeptical. Burnt out.

You’ve probably heard it all before.

Don’t quit before the miracle.

HBCC might just be what you’ve been searching for.

Let us help you:

Reduce meltdowns and power struggles

Improve communication

Teach durable, real-life skills

End chronic noncompliance

Build true connection

What's Next?

Sign up for a 6-Week In-Person Parenting Class

HBCC offers a variety of support:

Coaching

Therapy

Trainings

Wednesday Night Groups

2-Hour Intro Workshop

12-Hour Essential Foundation Training

Certification Guidance & Pathway

School Advocacy

Coming soon: Art Therapy

Community Events

We’re located in the heart of Old Town Tustin at Heart 4 Kids Coaching, Training & Learning Center.

Every day, more parents are asking for coaches and professionals who truly get it and know Collaborative Problem Solving®

We’re here to help you become one of them— empowered, supported, and confident.

Your Child Deserves the Right Support

So do YOU

Let HBCC walk beside you on this journey.

Sign up for the course, reach out to us, or attend a free overview.

HBCC is your roadmap.

Let’s get started.