Next 4-Week Course Starts Thursday Mornings, January 21, 28 & February 4, 11
Next 4-Week Course Starts Thursday Mornings, January 21, 28 & February 4, 11
Skill, Not Will
Skill, Not Will
Informational video
Dr. Stuart Ablon, Director of the Think:Kids program in the Department of Psychiatry at MGH, describes the general tenets of a parenting approach and model of care called Collaborative Problem Solving.
Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child in Tustin (HBCC) is a California Nonprofit Public Benefit Corporation that is composed of individuals who are committed to helping behaviorally challenging children lead more productive and inclusive lives.
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach for helping children with behavioral challenges. Through training, support and referrals to clinical services, we promote the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well – specifically, skills related to problem solving, flexibility and frustration
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach for helping children with behavioral challenges. Through training, support and referrals to clinical services, we promote the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well – specifically, skills related to problem solving, flexibility and frustration tolerance. Unlike traditional models of discipline, HBCC teaches an approach that avoids the use of power, control and motivational procedures and instead focuses on teaching at-risk, behaviorally challenging kids the skills they need to succeed.
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Teachers, church leaders, friends and even relatives lecture you about your child because they are not behaving as they should or living up to their potential. You feel like hiding under the
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Teachers, church leaders, friends and even relatives lecture you about your child because they are not behaving as they should or living up to their potential. You feel like hiding under the covers or moving your family to the other side of the States to live among strangers. Especially, when it is thought that your child's challenging behaviors are because of "poor parenting" -- compelling people to lecture you with (ineffective) ways to "make" your child behave.
Having been "that" challenging child myself and raising "that" challenging child, I set out on a quest to learn "what was really going on?" I learned about the pitfalls of misunderstanding directions, rigidity, a low frustration tolerance and living in the fight, flight, freeze and fib part of the "the brain" which led me to parent better. Other families and teachers noticed and asked me to share what I had learned and thus, HBCC was born!
Helping families eliminate and understand the "courtesy stigma" that has persisted throughout much of the 21st century in the professions of psychology and psychiatry, that blamed family members, mostly mothers, for causing their offsprings autism, ADHD, bi-polar, etc., has been the a most rewarding journey.
In 2004, when I started learning about behaviors, there were not many "relational approaches" other than Collaborative Problem Solving. Now there are over 25 that I know of and the field of understanding behaviors beyond rewards, consequences & control is growing!
This has become my passion along with my husband, although he has a full-time engineering job, he helps me a lot behind the scenes because he wishes there was this kind of parenting help when we were struggling.
If you feel like it is tough understanding behaviors and its "sea of options" -- it is! You are not alone! First know that there are many parenting programs, yet they all fall in one of two categories
(1) Rewards & Consequences to be sure that your child knows they will not get away with their bad, defiant, behavior
(2) skill building approaches that understand changing behaviors is about underlying lagging skills of:
I. Language & Communication
II. Social Thinking
III. Emotional & Self-Regulation
IV. Cognitive Flexibility
V. Attention & Working Memory
And builds skills by:
a. Pursuing Expectations
b. Reducing Behaviors
c. Teaching Skills
d. Solving Chronic Problems
e. Improving Relationships
Each family who finds HBCC and the skill building parenting & teaching approach becomes another advocate for change. Let us know how we can help YOU!
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated. Rewards and Punishments can make matters worse. HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble meeting the demands of
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated. Rewards and Punishments can make matters worse. HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble meeting the demands of home life and school expectations. Time and again, this approach has produced positive, evidence-based results in treatment. It has improved relationships between children, their teachers, families, and caregivers.
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