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Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child
Compliance is about Skill, Not Will
Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child
Compliance is about Skill, Not Will
A Road Map for Parents
Children with concerning and challenging behaviors are often misunderstood. The Road Map for Parenting, Teaching and Treating Children, Teens, and Young Adults with concerning, difficult-to-manage behaviors, developmental challenges and/or mental health concerns can be overwhelming for parents.
Simply speaking, you know something's wrong, but you don't know why or what to do about it. You feel stressed, angry, confused, even scared. You reach out to professionals and find that their language is filled with long unfamiliar terms and get advice on approaches that don't work or make matters worse. Even professionals and teachers don't always know what to do beyond a Token Economy based on behavior charts filled with Rewards, Consequences and Ignoring based on Behavior Management.
You read forms, fill out forms, sign more forms. Some of you have spent years frustrated, chasing down services, being told you are the one doing it wrong – not that you are being told to use the WRONG intervention.
That's why Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC) was founded. We are Parents helping Parents, Parent to Parent (P2P), Parent Coaches.
Wanting answers to resolve the challenging situation in your life is not too much to ask and it shouldn't be so difficult to find options. Typically one approach, behavior modification, is given to parents when a child presents with challenging behaviors. If rewards, consequences and ignoring are not working, it is blamed on the parents implementation. Parents hear things like "be consistent" "follow through with consequences" "set boundaries" "let your child know they may not get away with bad behaviors" "tell them to make good choices" --- these simplified statements are of no help to parents for developing complex thinking skills leading to challenging behavior.
Parents, caregivers and family members need a Road Map that makes a tough job easier! It simply shouldn't be so difficult to find durable solutions.
As Certified Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® parent coaches and mentors, we are here to help you become your child’s Case Manager to confidently understand the road you are traveling and what your choices are to maximize the potential of your child and the entire family.
Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® is an evidence-based model based on the premise that challenging behaviors occur when demands and expectations exceed one's capacity to respond appropriately. Challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well.
Since 2007 Debra Ann Afarian has presented this course on Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child reaching thousands of parents. She was that kid and also parented a twice-exceptional, neurodivergent son along with a neuortypical son. Two boys, same parents, different temperments.
She has learned from each and every family that has participated in the course over the many years that the one thing that is predictable across all families -- their challenging child’s behaviors are being misunderstood and it’s time to STOP blaming poor parenting as the reason for non-compliance and START applying what neuroscience knows about lagging skills that leads to challenging behaviors.
Challenging behaviors such as swearing, yelling, avoiding, eloping, refusal, etc., not only frustrate adults, challenging children are punished chronically for their developmental delays and lagging skills with an intense program of rewards, consequences and ignorning. This type of program was never meant to teach complex thinking skills.
Let HBCC help you on your journey to understanding your challenging child! HBCC’s curriculum has been fine-tuned across the years in response to parent input to help YOU get results.
HBCC follows up Parenting Classes with coaching and mentoring to help you navigate the sea of options with Coaching, Training & Therapy.
HBCC is located in the heart of Old Town Tustin, in the Heart 4 Kids Coaching, Training & Therapy Building.
There are mental health educators, school support advocates, therapists, psychiatrists, clinical psychologists and more in HBCC's community that follow and incorporate the Collaborative Probelm Solving(CPS)® approach.
HBCC helps you find and build your team.
The journey to a healthier happier life begins with YOU taking the parenting course! The 6-Week course takes you on a journey where each week builds on the previous week. Parents appreciate being able to connect with other parents going through similar challenges in the classroom setting.
(Week 1) What is getting in the way? Why do challenging children sometimes struggle to meet day-to-day expectations. What has typically been done about what is getting in the way?
(Week 2) What are the Five Thinking Skills needed to meet expectations? What is Collaborative Problem Solving®(CPS)?
(Week 3) What are the unsolved problems behind the behaviors? Dives into Collaborative Problme Solving 3 options for responding to unmet expectations
(Week 4) Looks through a truly trauma-informed lens to cover how to practice addressing problems before things become escalated between you and your child. How CPS reduces challenging beahviors, improves relationships and teaches crtical skills.
(Week 5) Practice what you've learned thorugh watching roll playing moderated in the class setting.
(Week 6) Wraps up the course with an in-depth Q&A, videos, role playing and more videos.
Are you looking to:
- Reduce meltdowns & defiance
- Stop the power struggles
- Teach lagging thinking skills
- Solve unsolved problems
- Improve communication
- Build connection
HBCC offers:
6-week in person Parenting Class
A Monthly Parent Support Club for Moms & Dads
Parent Coaching & Mentoring
Workshops
Group Coaching for Implementation - change takes time. HBCC refers you to Certifed CPS Therapists who offer continuing support for you in using the approach for sustainability after the course.
HBCC can help you climb what may seem like an impossible mountain!
Take the first step... contact HBCC ASAP info@hbcc.us 714.695.1057
Trainings in Collaborative Problem Solving®
CPS Certified Experts
HBCC provides an effective, evidence-based, parent/caregiver classes where you will learn how to partner with your child to identify the triggers for their challenging behavior and work together to produce a game plan for how to handle problems BEFORE they happen. Take the first step to reduce adult/child power struggles and conflict today by signing up for a parenting/caregiver class, join our FREE monthly support group or call for a FREE consultation with an HBCC Think:Kids Certified CPS® Expert to learn more.
HBCC helps families get connected to Support Groups, Learning Centers, Service Providers and Advocates who embrace collaborative & connected approaches, like CPS, rethinking conventional reward & consequence type approaches to behavioral difficulites that typically don't work and make matters worse.
CPS strengthens relationships and teaches skills!
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About Us
Mission
At-A-Glance
Mission
Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child in Tustin (HBCC) is a California Nonprofit Public Benefit Corporation that is composed of individuals who are committed to helping behaviorally challenging children lead more productive and inclusive lives.
Vision
At-A-Glance
Mission
To transform children's lives by deepening the world's understanding of their behaviors, and promoting effective interventions that focus on connectedness, collaboration and inclusion.
At-A-Glance
At-A-Glance
How Did HBCC Start?
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors and amazing results are happening.
Amazing results are happening related to problem solving, cognitive flexibility, executive function, and frustration tolerance.
Unlike traditional models of discipline, which use an abundance of rewards, consequences and ignoring; HBCC teaches an approach that avoids the use of power, control and motivational procedures.
HBCC focuses on teaching at-risk, behaviorally challenging complex kids the skills they need to succeed and maximize potential.
How Did HBCC Start?
How Did HBCC Start?
How Did HBCC Start?
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends, and even relatives lecture
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends, and even relatives lecture you about your child because your child's big emotions don't live up to their expectations (or yours quite frankly). You feel like hiding under the covers or moving your family to the other side of your state to live among strangers. Especially, when it is thought that your child's challenging and concerning behaviors are because of "poor parenting" -- compelling people to lecture you with (ineffective) ways to "make" your child behave and meet expectations.
Having been "that" child myself and raising "that" child, I set out on a quest to learn "what was really going on?" I knew I wanted to meet adult expectations as a child, I knew our son did, and I found the answers that changed both our lives for the better!
Compliance is about
SKILL not WILL
I learned about the pitfalls of misunderstanding directions (executive function), rigidity (cognitive inflexibilty), low frustration tolerance (regulation) and living in the fight, flight, freeze and fibbing part of the the brain (the amygdala).
All my new knowledge led me to parent differently, counter-intuitively, yet successfully! Other families and teachers noticed and asked me to share what I had learned and thus, HBCC was born!
Helping families change outcomes by eliminating and understanding the "stigma" that has persisted throughout much of the 21st century has been the most rewarding journey.
It is time to end the systemic discrimination in the professions of psychology and psychiatry, which blames parents, mostly mothers, for causing their offspring's challenging and concerning behaviors.
In 2003, when I started learning about behaviors and neuroscience, there were not many "relational approaches" other than Collaborative Problem Solving®.
Now in 2023, there are over 25 parenting programs that I know of in the field of understanding, collaboration, connection and behaviors BEYOND rewards, consequences & control!
Beyond ABA.
Disipline without
RELATIONSHIP leads to
REBELLION
This has become my passion along with my husband, although he has a full-time director of engineering job, he helps me a lot behind the scenes. He wishes there was the kind of parenting help and support HBCC offers when we were struggling with our sensitive, energetic, 2e (smart & quirky) son. He has also been my knight in shining armor helping me untangle the school of hard knocks I went through being THAT child too.
He makes the living so together
HBCC can make the difference!
If you feel like it is tough understanding behaviors and its "sea of options" -- it is!
You are not alone!
First know that there are many parenting programs, yet they all fall in one of two categories:
(1) Rewards & Consequences ... a token economy ... behavior modification to be sure that your child knows they will not get away with defiant, non-compliant behavior. Known as Opperant Conditioning: ABA.
(2) A "skill building" approach that understands rewards and consequences were never meant to teach complex thinking skills.
Known as Collaborative & Connected: CPS.
It doesn't have to be
WIN OR LOSE
HBCC helps you to find
the path to WIN & LEARN...
Challenging behaviors are about lagging skills in the areas of:
I. Language & Communication
II. Social Thinking
III. Emotional & Self-Regulation
IV. Cognitive Flexibility
V. Attention & Working Memory
And builds skills by:
a. Pursuing Expectations
b. Reducing Behaviors
c. Teaching Skills
d. Solving Chronic Problems
e. Improving Relationships
Each family who finds HBCC and the skill building parenting & teaching approach reaps positive results and becomes another advocate for change.
Let us know how we can help YOU!
How Can We Help?
How Did HBCC Start?
How Can We Help?
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble me
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble meeting the demands of home life and school expectations.
Time and again, this approach has produced positive, evidence-based results in treatment. It has improved relationships between children, their teachers, families, and caregivers.
If you would like to find out more about CPS:
- Explore this Website
- Watch Our Videos
- Take a 6-Week Parent/Caregiver Course
- Join Our Book Club
- Join Our Educational Parent Support Group for Mothers & Fathers
- Ask about IEP/504/Inclusion Parent Coaching
- Sign up for a Workshop
Questions: email info@hbcc.us
Call (714) 695-1057
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