Next Course Starts Thursday Mornings 10/5/2023
Next Course Starts Thursday Mornings 10/5/2023
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Compliance is about Skill, Not Will
Compliance is about Skill, Not Will
If you cannot find an answer to your question
please reach out to us at info@hbcc.us
6-weeks, Thursday Mornings, 10am - Noon
10/5, 10/12, 10/19, 10/26 & 11/2, 11/9
The ideal is that both parents take the class. This may not always be possible to take the class together due to childcare, etc. Parents are encouraged to take this informative Parenting Course together if possible or attend different classes depending on schedules. It is highly beneficial to hear the approach first hand. Single parents, Grandparents, Caregivers and Significant Others are encouraged to join the course.
The parenting class at HBCC is only available in-person and limited to 10 families per class. We find that parents/caregivers appreciate the company of being with others going through a similar situation in-person. They find out they are not alone. Please consult with HBCC regarding options available if in-person is not what you are looking for.
The course includes the weekly digital PowerPoint emailed to you, handouts each week, weekly worksheets providing step-by-step guidance, and an email summary after each class.
Yes, HBCC works to be a clearinghouse to connect you with providers, support groups, and mental health professionals trained in or familiar with the approach who can work with you 1:1 or in groups.
Children with concerning and challenging behaviors are often misunderstood. The Road Map for Parenting, Teaching and Treating Children, Teens, and Young Adults with concerning, difficult-to-manage behaviors, developmental challenges and/or mental health concerns can be overwhelming for parents.
Simply speaking, you know something's wrong, but you don't know why or what to do about it. You feel stressed, angry, confused, even scared. You reach out to professionals and find that their language is filled with long unfamiliar terms and get advice on approaches that don't work or make matters worse. Even professionals and teachers don't always know what to do beyond a Token Economy based on behavior charts filled with Rewards, Consequences and Ignoring based on Behavior Management.
You read forms, fill out forms, sign more forms. Some of you have spent years frustrated, chasing down services, being told you are the one doing it wrong – not that you are being told to use the WRONG intervention.
That's why Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC) was founded. We are Parent-to-Parent, Peer-to-Peer Professionals (P2P).
Wanting answers to resolve the challenging situation in your life is not too much to ask and it shouldn't be so difficult to find options. Typically one approach, behavior modification, is given to parents when a child presents with challenging behaviors. If rewards, consequences and ignoring are not working, it is blamed on the parents implementation. Parents hear things like "be consistent" "follow through with consequences" "set boundaries" "let your child know they may not get away with bad behaviors" "tell them to make good choices" --- these simplified statements are of no help to parents for developing complex thinking skills leading to challenging behavior.
Parents, caregivers and family members need a Road Map that makes a tough job easier! It simply shouldn't be so difficult to find durable solutions.
As Certified Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® Experts, we are here to help you become your child’s Case Manager to confidently understand the road you are traveling and what your choices are to maximize the potential of your child and the entire family.
Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® is an evidence-based model based on the premise that challenging behaviors occur when demands and expectations exceed one's capacity to respond appropriately.
Since 2007 Debra Ann Afarian has presented this course on Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child reaching thousands of parents. She was that kid and also parented a twice-exceptional, neurodivergent son along with a neuortypical son. Two boys, same parents, different temperments. She has learned from each and every family that has participated in the course over the years that the one thing that is predictable across all families -- their challenging child’s behaviors are being misunderstood and it’s time to STOP blaming poor parenting as the sole reason for non-compliance and START applying what neuroscience knows about lagging skills that leads to challenging behaviors.
Challenging behaviors such as swearing, yelling, avoiding, eloping, refusal, etc., not only frustrate adults, challenging children are punished chronically for their developmental delays and lagging skills.
Rewards, consequences and ignoring were NEVER meant to teach complex thinking skills.
Let HBCC help you on your journey to understanding your challenging child! HBCC’s curriculum has been fine-tuned across the years in response to parent input to help YOU get results.
HBCC additionally refers to service providers to help you with Coaching, Training & Therapy. HBCC is located in the heart of Old Town Tustin, in the Heart 4 Kids Coaching, Training & Therapy Center. There are mental health educators, school support advocates, therapists, psychiatrists, clinical psychologists and more in HBCC's community that follow and incorporate the Collaborative Probelm Solving(CPS)® approach.
HBCC helps you find and build your team.
The journey to a healthier happier life begins with YOU taking the parenting course! The 6-Week course takes you on a journey where each week builds on the previous week. Parents appreciate being able to connect with other parents going through similar challenges in the classroom setting.
(Week 1) What is getting in the way? Why do challenging children sometimes struggle to meet day-to-day expectations. What has typically been done about what is getting in the way?
(Week 2) What are the Five Thinking Skills needed to meet expectations? What is Collaborative Problem Solving®(CPS)?
(Week 3) An in-depth look at what your 3 options are for responding to unmet expectations, how CPS reduces challenging beahviors, improves relationships and teaches crtical skills.
(Week 4) Looks through a truly trauma-informed lens and covers how to practice addressing problems before things become escalated between you and your child.
(Week 5) Practice what you've learned thorugh watching roll playing moderated in the class setting.
(Week 6) Wraps up the course with an in-depth Q&A, videos, role playing and more videos.
(Week 1-6) Include videos and Q&A.
Are you looking to:
HBCC offers:
6-Week Parenting Class
2-Hour Overview in your school or agency
A Monthly Parent Support Group
IEP/504 Parent Coaching
General Education Parent Coaching
FBA Workshops
Coaching, Individual & Family Therapy
Group Coaching for Implementation - change takes time. HBCC refers you to Certifed CPS Experts who offer continuing support for you in using the approach for sustainability after the course.
HBCC can help you climb what may seem like an impossible mountain!
Take the first step... contact HBCC ASAP info@hbcc.us 714.695.1057
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As you know, parenting can be hard!
When you have a child who struggles with concerning,
challenging behaviors, it often effects the entire family.
Challenging children, teens and young adults with challenging behaviors don't always have a diagnosis, yet frequently are diagnosed with
ADHD, ODD, DMDD, IED, 2e, Autism, Anxiety, Depression,
self-medicating, eating & learning disorders (LD) and more.
When families are overwhelmed with chronic
challenging behaviors they often feel
isolated, shamed, and blamed.
Parents find themselves searching and searching
yet finding little guidance
to figure out solutions outside of
consequences & rewards that
don't work for
their particular situation or child.
Parents have little time to take a parenting class.
Especially when so many parenting classes have failed them,
taking another one can seem like a waste of precious time.
Many parenting classes cover
"being more consistent"
"following through with consequences right away"
"telling your child NO firmly"
"setting boundaries"
"sticker charts to motivate your child"
These conventional approaches are not working for your child,
because for your child, compliance is about skill not will.
As a matter of fact, conventional advice for your child
is like pouring gas on a fire and/or salt on a wound,
it makes matters worse!
You know your child knows how to behave, yet they are NOT!
So What's Up?!
Conventional approaches are WRONG!
If this describes YOU, please take the time
to watch the videos below and explore this website.
Give us a call 714.695.1057 or send an email info@hbcc.us
We are confident you will finally find your community
and feel you are on a path to getting answers and solutions!
Take a moment to hear the story from the Founder and CEO of HBCC, Debra Ann Afarian - be sure to watch to the end, past the credits.
What if behavioral challenges are about something completely different than what you think they are? Debra Ann shares her powerful story and how it inspired her to help parents understand and empower their children.
Debra Ann Afarian is the Founder and CEO of the non-profit, Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC).
HBCC provides Parenting Classes, Support & Coaching.
HBCC's hosts trainings for educators and healthcare providers focused on understanding children through a new lens.
Jill Stowell speaks with Debra Ann Afarian who has a message of experience, strength and hope!
Key Points:
✔️ A child's challenging behaviors are NOT the parents' fault.
✔️ Practical guidance for meeting your child exactly where they are.
✔️ Compassionately move your child to a place of self-control & success.
✔️ Learn how to stop the adult/child power struggles & implement Collaborative Problem Solving®.
Collaborative Problem Solving®(CPS) is an evidence-based approach developed by Think:Kids, a program based in the Department of Psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, MA. CPS is a big shift when it comes to understanding your child's challenging behaviors and what to do about it. CPS is proven to reduce challenging behavior, increase compliance, improve family relationships and help your child build the skills they lack. #StuartAblonPhDTedTalk #CPS
HBCC provides an effective, evidence-based, 6-week parent/caregiver class where you will learn how to partner with your child to identify the triggers for their challenging behavior and work together to produce a game plan for how to handle problems BEFORE they happen. Take the first step to reduce adult/child power struggles and conflict today by signing up for a parenting/caregiver class, join our FREE monthly support group or call for a FREE consultation with an HBCC Think:Kids Certified CPS® Expert to learn more.
HBCC helps families get connected to Support Groups, Learning Centers, Service Providers and Advocates who embrace collaborative & connected approaches, like CPS, rethinking conventional reward & consequence type approaches to behavioral difficulites that typically don't work and make matters worse.
CPS strengthens relationships and teaches skills!
#CPSapproach #SkillNotWill #KidsDoWellIfTheyCan #ChildBehavior
#BehaviorManagement #MentalHealthAwareness #ADHDawareness
#ADHDsupport #neurodiversity #SmartAndQuirky #ADHDparenting
#ASDparenting #ASDsupport #ADSawareness #ChallengingBehaviors
Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child in Tustin (HBCC) is a California Nonprofit Public Benefit Corporation that is composed of individuals who are committed to helping behaviorally challenging children lead more productive and inclusive lives.
To transform children's lives by deepening the world's understanding of their behaviors, and promoting effective interventions that focus on connectedness, collaboration and inclusion.
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors and amazing results are happening.
Amazing results are happening related to problem solving, cognitive flexibility, executive function, and frustration tolerance.
Unlike traditional models of discipline, which use an abundance of rewards, consequences and ignoring; HBCC teaches an approach that avoids the use of power, control and motivational procedures.
HBCC focuses on teaching at-risk, behaviorally challenging complex kids the skills they need to succeed and maximize potential.
A note from Debra Ann Afarian
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends
A note from Debra Ann Afarian
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends, and even relatives lecture you about your child because your child's big emotions don't live up to their expectations (or yours quite frankly). You feel like hiding under the covers or moving your family to the other side of the State to live among strangers. Especially, when it is thought that your child's challenging and concerning behaviors are because of "poor parenting" -- compelling people to lecture you with (ineffective) ways to "make" your child behave and meet expectations.
Having been "that" child myself and raising "that" child, I set out on a quest to learn "what was really going on?" I knew I wanted to meet adult expectations as a child, I knew our son did, and I found the answers that changed both our lives for the better!
I learned about the pitfalls of misunderstanding directions (executive function), rigidity (cognitive inflexibilty), low frustration tolerance (regulation) and living in the fight, flight, freeze and fibbing part of the the brain (the amygdala).
All my new knowledge led me to parent differently, counter-intuitively, yet successfully! Other families and teachers noticed and asked me to share what I had learned and thus, HBCC was born!
Helping families change outcomes by eliminating and understanding the "stigma" that has persisted throughout much of the 21st century has been the most rewarding journey.
It is time to end the systemic discrimination in the professions of psychology and psychiatry, which blames parents, mostly mothers, for causing their offspring's challenging and concerning behaviors.
In 2003, when I started learning about behaviors and neuroscience, there were not many "relational approaches" other than Collaborative Problem Solving®.
Now in 2021, there are over 25 parenting programs that I know of in the field of understanding, collaboration, connection and behaviors BEYOND rewards, consequences & control!
Beyond ABA.
This has become my passion along with my husband, although he has a full-time engineering job, he helps me a lot behind the scenes because he wishes there was this kind of parenting help and support when we were struggling with our sensitive, energetic, 2e (smart & quirky) son.
He makes our living,
HBCC makes the difference!
If you feel like it is tough understanding behaviors and its "sea of options" -- it is! You are not alone! First know that there are many parenting programs, yet they all fall in one of two categories:
(1) Rewards & Consequences ... a token economy ... behavior modification to be sure that your child knows they will not get away with defiant, non-compliant behavior. Known as Opperant Conditioning: ABA.
(2) A "skill building" approach that understands rewards and consequences were never meant to teach complex thinking skills.
Known as Collaborative & Connected: CPS.
Challenging behaviors are about lagging skills in the areas of:
I. Language & Communication
II. Social Thinking
III. Emotional & Self-Regulation
IV. Cognitive Flexibility
V. Attention & Working Memory
And builds skills by:
a. Pursuing Expectations
b. Reducing Behaviors
c. Teaching Skills
d. Solving Chronic Problems
e. Improving Relationships
Each family who finds HBCC and the skill building parenting & teaching approach reaps positive results and becomes another advocate for change.
Let us know how we can help YOU!
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble me
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble meeting the demands of home life and school expectations.
Time and again, this approach has produced positive, evidence-based results in treatment. It has improved relationships between children, their teachers, families, and caregivers.
If you would like to find out more about CPS:
Questions: email info@hbcc.us
Call (714) 695-1057
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