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A Road Map for Parents
Children with concerning and challenging behaviors are often misunderstood. The Road Map for Parenting, Teaching and Treating Children, Teens, and Young Adults with concerning, difficult-to-manage behaviors, developmental challenges and/or mental health concerns can be overwhelming for parents "in-the-trenches".
Simply speaking, you know something's wrong, but you don't know why or what to do about it. You feel stressed, angry, confused or even scared. You reach out to professionals and find that their language is filled with long unfamiliar terms and get advice on systems that don't work or make matters worse. Even professionals and teachers don't always know what to do beyond a Token Economy based on behavior charts filled with Rewards and Consequences involving Behavior Management. You read forms, fill out forms, and sign more forms. Some of you have spent years frustrated, chasing down services, being told you are the one doing it wrong – not that you are being told to use the WRONG intervention.
That's why Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC) was founded. We are Parents helping Parents, Parents 2 Parents (P2P).
Wanting answers to resolve the challenging situation in your life is not too much to ask. Parents, caregivers and family members need a Road Map that makes a tough job easier!
At HBCC we believe to help Maximize the Potential of your whole family you may need help navigating the sea of options, help bringing parents and educators together as allies, or maybe you are lost in learning the language of advocacy & parenting. As Certified Collaborative Problem Solving® Experts, we are here to help you become your child’s Case Manager to confidently know the road you will travel.
For the past 11 years Debra Ann Afarian has presented a parenting course on Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child to over 1,000 families. She has been that family and has learned from each and every family that has participated in the courses.
The one thing that is predictable across all families is their child’s behaviors are being misunderstood and it’s time to STOP blaming poor parenting as the sole reason for non-compliance and START applying what neuroscience knows about lagging skills that leads to maladaptive behaviors.
What started with one CPS Certified Expert has now grown, and your options have grown too. HBCC now has more CPS experts than ever before and more in the certificaiton process.
Let HBCC help you to begin your journey to place your Road Map securely in your hand! HBCC’s curriculum has been fine-tuned across the years in response to your input to help YOU get results.
HBCC additionally refers to service providers to help you with Coaching, Training & Therapy. HBCC is located in the heart of Old Town Tustin, in the Heart 4 Kids Coaching, Training & Therapy Center. There are mental health educators, school support advocates, therapists, psychiatrists, clinical psychologists and more in our community that follow and incorporate the Collaborative Probelm Solving® approach.
HBCC helps you find and build your team.
The journey to a healthier happier life begins with YOU taking the parenting course! The 5-Week course takes you on a journey where each week builds on the previous week.
(Week 1) What is getting in the way? Why do challenging children sometimes struggle to meet day-to-day expectations. What has typically been done about what is getting in the way?
(Week 2) What are your 3 options for responding to unmet expectations?
(Week 3) Looks through a truly trauma-informed lens to break the cycle of chronic unsolved problems that lead to challenging behaviors by introducing Collaborative Problem Solving® and what is called Plan B.
(Week 4) Covers how to create adult/child collaborated & connected solutions to the unsolved problems. Includes videos and Q&A.
(Week 5) Wraps up with role playing and more videos.
The course offers a 1-hour follow-up consultation. You will learn about a variety of “Next Steps” available in the community and with HBCC for after the parenting class including:
Monthly Parent Support Groups
Role Play Enhancement Workshops
IEP/504/Inclusion Parent Coaching
FBA Workshops
Coaching, Individual & Family Therapy & More
HBCC can help you climb what may seem like an impossible mountain!
Take the first step... contact HBCC ASAP info@hbcc.us 714.695.1057
Trainings in Collaborative Problem Solving®
CPS Certified Experts
HBCC provides an effective, evidence-based, 5-week parent/caregiver class where you will learn how to partner with your child to identify the triggers for their challenging behavior and work together to produce a game plan for how to handle problems BEFORE they happen. Take the first step to reduce adult/child power struggles and conflict today by signing up for a parenting/caregiver class, join our FREE monthly support group or call for a FREE consultation with an HBCC Think:Kids Certified CPS® Expert to learn more.
HBCC helps families get connected to Support Groups, Learning Centers, Service Providers and Advocates who embrace collaborative & connected approaches, like CPS, rethinking conventional reward & consequence type approaches to behavioral difficulites that typically don't work and make matters worse.
CPS strengthens relationships and teaches skills!
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About Us
Mission
At-A-Glance
Mission
Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child in Tustin (HBCC) is a California Nonprofit Public Benefit Corporation that is composed of individuals who are committed to helping behaviorally challenging children lead more productive and inclusive lives.
Vision
At-A-Glance
Mission
To transform children's lives by deepening the world's understanding of their behaviors, and promoting effective interventions that focus on connectedness, collaboration and inclusion.
At-A-Glance
At-A-Glance
How Did HBCC Start?
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors
HBCC teaches a revolutionary, evidence-based approach that promotes the understanding that challenging kids lack the skill, not the will, to behave well. Through coaching, training, therapy, parent support and referrals to services that support Collaborative Problem Solving®, HBCC is championing the cause to rethink challenging behaviors and amazing results are happening.
Amazing results are happening related to problem solving, cognitive flexibility, executive function, and frustration tolerance.
Unlike traditional models of discipline, which use an abundance of rewards, consequences and ignoring; HBCC teaches an approach that avoids the use of power, control and motivational procedures.
HBCC focuses on teaching at-risk, behaviorally challenging complex kids the skills they need to succeed and maximize potential.
How Did HBCC Start?
How Did HBCC Start?
How Did HBCC Start?
A note from Debra Ann Afarian
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends
A note from Debra Ann Afarian
Parenting a child with ADHD, ASD, OCD, DMDD, Anxiety, ODD, PDA, etc., can morph people who are supposed to be your allies into treating you as a failure! Espcially when your child presents well enough to know better, old enough to know better, and/or is parented to do better!
Teachers, church leaders, friends, and even relatives lecture you about your child because your child's big emotions don't live up to their expectations (or yours quite frankly). You feel like hiding under the covers or moving your family to the other side of the State to live among strangers. Especially, when it is thought that your child's challenging and concerning behaviors are because of "poor parenting" -- compelling people to lecture you with (ineffective) ways to "make" your child behave and meet expectations.
Having been "that" child myself and raising "that" child, I set out on a quest to learn "what was really going on?" I knew I wanted to meet adult expectations as a child, I knew our son did, and I found the answers that changed both our lives for the better!
I learned about the pitfalls of misunderstanding directions (executive function), rigidity (cognitive inflexibilty), low frustration tolerance (regulation) and living in the fight, flight, freeze and fibbing part of the the brain (the amygdala).
All my new knowledge led me to parent differently, counter-intuitively, yet successfully! Other families and teachers noticed and asked me to share what I had learned and thus, HBCC was born!
Helping families change outcomes by eliminating and understanding the "stigma" that has persisted throughout much of the 21st century has been the most rewarding journey.
It is time to end the systemic discrimination in the professions of psychology and psychiatry, which blames parents, mostly mothers, for causing their offspring's challenging and concerning behaviors.
In 2003, when I started learning about behaviors and neuroscience, there were not many "relational approaches" other than Collaborative Problem Solving®.
Now in 2021, there are over 25 parenting programs that I know of in the field of understanding, collaboration, connection and behaviors BEYOND rewards, consequences & control!
Beyond ABA.
This has become my passion along with my husband, although he has a full-time engineering job, he helps me a lot behind the scenes because he wishes there was this kind of parenting help and support when we were struggling with our sensitive, energetic, 2e (smart & quirky) son.
He makes our living,
HBCC makes the difference!
If you feel like it is tough understanding behaviors and its "sea of options" -- it is! You are not alone! First know that there are many parenting programs, yet they all fall in one of two categories:
(1) Rewards & Consequences ... a token economy ... behavior modification to be sure that your child knows they will not get away with defiant, non-compliant behavior. Known as Opperant Conditioning: ABA.
(2) A "skill building" approach that understands rewards and consequences were never meant to teach complex thinking skills.
Known as Collaborative & Connected: CPS.
Challenging behaviors are about lagging skills in the areas of:
I. Language & Communication
II. Social Thinking
III. Emotional & Self-Regulation
IV. Cognitive Flexibility
V. Attention & Working Memory
And builds skills by:
a. Pursuing Expectations
b. Reducing Behaviors
c. Teaching Skills
d. Solving Chronic Problems
e. Improving Relationships
Each family who finds HBCC and the skill building parenting & teaching approach reaps positive results and becomes another advocate for change.
Let us know how we can help YOU!
How Can We Help?
How Did HBCC Start?
How Can We Help?
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble me
Adult/Child power struggles can leave both parties frustrated.
Rewards, Punishments and Ignoring approaches can make matters worse.
HBCC introduces adults to Collaborative Problem Solving® (CPS). CPS helps with parenting, teaching and treating children, teens, and young adults with difficult-to-manage behaviors who are having trouble meeting the demands of home life and school expectations.
Time and again, this approach has produced positive, evidence-based results in treatment. It has improved relationships between children, their teachers, families, and caregivers.
If you would like to find out more about CPS:
- Explore this Website
- Watch Our Videos
- Take a 5-Week Parent/Caregiver Course
- Join Our Book Club
- Join Our Educational Parent Support Group for Mothers & Fathers
- Ask about IEP/504/Inclusion Parent Coaching
- Sign up for a Workshop
Questions: email info@hbcc.us
Call (714) 695-1057
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How Did HBCC Start?
How Can We Help?
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