Parenting Classes, Support & Coaching

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 The Road Map for parenting, teaching and treating concerning, difficult-to-manage behaviors,

developmental challenges and/or mental health concerns can be overwhelming for parents.

Simply speaking, you know something's wrong, but you don't know why or what to do about it.

You feel stressed, angry, confused, even scared.

You reach out to professionals and find that their language is filled with long unfamiliar terms,

and you get advice on approaches that don't work or make matters worse.

Even professionals and educators don't always know what to do beyond a Token Economy

 based on behavior charts filled with rewards, consequences and ignoring based on trying to "manage" behavior. 

Rewards, consequences and ignoring were NEVER meant to teach complex thinking skills.

The Token Economy approach works for the majority of kids -- 70% -- who have the ability to be thoughtful,

flexible, and intentional with their behaviors; "managing" behaviors doesn't work for kids -- 30% -- 

who struggle with emotional regulation, flexibility and problem solving.

No matter no matter how consistently you implement a reward system, set boundaries, and impose consequences,

temperatures continue to rise with this population.

 You find that the standard conventional approach is like pouring gas on a fire when you remind your child of consequences,

or equally stressful, like pouring salt on a wound when they don't get the reward - yet again.

Emotional dysregulation is increasingly recognized as a challenge for many children and teens. No longer considered

just "bad behavior", it's clear that staying in control can be a struggle for some despite their best intentions.

But what is a parent to do?  Expectations still have to be met.

When kids are dysregulated, parents can become dysregulated, and families are often thrown into chaos.

Parents describe "walking on eggshells" or "feeling held hostage" in their efforts to "manage"

challenging behaviors struggling to find moments of calm.

Some have spent years frustrated, chasing down services,

being told you are doing the intervention wrong –

instead of being told you are using the WRONG intervention.

You don't want to use a shovel, when you need a wheel right?!

The decade of the brain (1990's) and the new neuroscience confirms an evidence-based,

skill-building, truly trauma-informed, social-emotional,

inclusive approach like Collaborative Problem Solving is what is needed.  

Collaborative Problem Solving can't make the impossible possible; however, it can make the possible more possible.

Give your child and yourself the equity you deserve! 

It helps to know a bit about what factors contribute to the development of good regulation --

that's why Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child (HBCC) was founded.

As Peer Parent Coaches we take you on a journey to understand what is going on,

what has typically been done about it, why that isn't working to "manage" behavior

and then what Collaborative Problem Solving does to help learn skills to communicate and express feelings,

develop executive function, cognitive flexibility, regulation and social skills.

Wanting answers to resolve the challenging situation in your life is not too much to ask

and it shouldn't be so difficult to find options other than "managing" behaviors

with a system of rewards, consequences and ignoring "bad" behavior. 

If the "behavior modification" approach is NOT working,

it is often blamed on the parent's implementation as the reason why the approach is not working.
Parents hear over and over...

be consistent

follow through with consequences

set boundaries

let your child know they may not get away with bad behaviors

tell them to make good choices

tell your child NO firmly and stick to it 

use a sticker chart to motivate your child

set boundaries

These are simplified statements to a complicated concern.

Advising parents to use a behavior management approach expecting

a different result damages the parent/child relationship.

Discipline without relationship leads to rebellion. 

HBCC helps with the Road Map that makes a tough job easier!  

HBCC has grown over a couple of decades and is now composed of multiple Collaborative Problem Solving Certified

parent professionals who are committed to helping transform children's lives by deepening

adults understanding of their behaviors and promoting effective interventions

that focus on connection, collaboration, and inclusion.

As Certified Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® parent coaches and mentors,

we are here to help you confidently understand the road you are traveling and what your choices are

to maximize the potential of your child and the entire family.  

HBCCs founder has presented this course on Helping the Behaviorally Challenging Child

since 2007 reaching thousands of parents. She was that challenging kid herself! 

She and her husband have two boys, 21 months apart, born in 1994 and 1995.

HBCC has learned from each and every family that has participated in the course over

many years and one thing that is predictable across all families:

 their challenging child’s behaviors are being misunderstood and it’s time to STOP

blaming parenting as the reason for non-compliance and START

applying what neuroscience knows about lagging skills that leads to challenging behaviors.  

If a child could do well, they would do well! 

Let HBCC help you on a journey to understanding your challenging child through a

compassionate, collaborative, social emotional learning lens! 

HBCC’s curriculum has been fine-tuned across the years in response to parent input to help YOU get results. 

HBCC offers Parenting Classes with Parent Coaching to help you navigate the Sea of Options.

HBCC helps with Coaching, Training & Therapy.

HBCC offers a weekly Wednesday Support Group to grow and continue to learn together. 

HBCC is located in the heart of Old Town Tustin, in the Heart 4 Kids Coaching, Training & Therapy Building.

More and more parents are asking for trained or certified Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® professionals every day,

so, more and more providers are being trained in this approach that understands, follows and

incorporates the Collaborative Problem Solving(CPS)® approach in their practices.

HBCC helps you find and build your team.

If you have made it this far, this information is most likely speaking to YOU!

Parents have little time to take a parenting class, especially when so many parenting classes

have failed them, taking another one can seem like a waste of precious time.

Don't quit before the miracle! 

HBCC IS YOUR ANSWER -- glad you found us!

The journey to a healthier happier life begins with YOU taking the first step and signing up for a parenting course!   

(Week 1) What is getting in the way? 

Why do challenging children sometimes struggle to meet day-to-day expectations. 

What has typically been done about what is getting in the way? 

(Week 2) What are the Five Thinking Skills needed to meet expectations?

What is Collaborative Problem Solving®(CPS)?

(Week 3) What are the unsolved problems behind the behaviors? 

What is Collaborative Problem Solving?

What are the 3 options for responding to unmet expectations?

(Week 4) Looks through a truly trauma-informed lens.

How do adults practice addressing unsolved problems proactively?

 How does CPS reduce challenging behaviors, improve relationships and teach critical skills?

(Week 5) Practice what you've learned through watching videos & roll playing in the class setting. 

(Week 6) Wraps up the course with in-depth Q&A's, a survey to collect data & a Certificate of Completion.

Are you looking to:

Reduce meltdowns & defiance?

Stop the power struggles?

each lagging thinking skills, durably?

End the chronic noncompliance?

Solve unsolved problems?

Improve communication?

Build connection?

HBCC offers:

6-week in-person Parenting Classes

Weekly Wednesday Parent Support

On-going Parent Coaching & Mentoring

2-Hour Overview

On-going workshops

CPS Education Advocacy

  Level 1 Essential Foundation Training

Guidance on becoming Certified through Think:Kids

The Collaborative Problem Solving®(CPS) approach is owned and developed by Think:Kids (www.thinkkids.org),

a program based in the Department of Psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital(MGH) in Boston, MA.
Those CPS Certified receive ongoing supervision from T:K and are independent of MGH.
HBCC TAX ID #46-3240447